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I'm Belinda. Plot twist: I'm both a recovering addict AND a substance use disorder clinician. If you'd told me years ago I'd be where I am today, I would've laughed so hard I might've fallen off my barstool. But here we are, and somehow life turned out way better than any high I chased back in the day. I started this blog because we need to cut through all the BS around addiction and recovery. There's enough shame and stigma out there, and I'm pretty much done with it. It's time to get uncomfortable and talk about the stuff nobody wants to talk about. The messy parts. The real parts. Home-wise, I'm living my best chaos in northern Wisconsin with my incredible partner (our family's human rock), two amazing boys (one rocking the autism spectrum), a weirdly lovable dog named Baby Dog, and a cat named Steve. While our neck of the woods is postcard-pretty, we're not immune to the addiction crisis. This blog? It's going to be honest. Sometimes painfully so. Sometimes funny (because if we can't laugh at the darkness, what's the point?). Always real. Welcome to my corner of the internet, where recovery meets reality, and we don't sugarcoat a damn thing.

Wednesday, May 1, 2024

From Fast Cash...To What?

 




From Fast Cash to Honest Work: Navigating Early Recovery and the Emotional Toll of Starting Over

It's a crisp, early morning, and I find myself clocking in for my shift. The familiar scent of coffee fills the air, and the sound of clinking dishes resonates in the background. This routine is new to me, a stark contrast from the life I once knew. I was the "plug," the person people came to when they needed something outside the confines of the law. Money was never an issue; it flowed as freely as the risks I took. But those days are behind me now. I'm in early recovery, and I'm learning the value of earning an honest dollar.

The Emotional Whirlwind

The transition from the fast-paced hustle of the streets to the structure of hourly work is a profound one. There's an emotional toll that many don't anticipate. The adrenaline rush of the hustle, the danger, the sense of being in control - it's all gone. In its place is the predictability of a 9-to-5 job, and with it, a host of feelings that are hard to navigate.

The stress is different now. It's no longer about dodging law enforcement or rivalries but about making ends meet and proving your worth in a society that often stigmatizes those with a past like mine. There's a haunting impatience, a nagging feeling that the paycheck at the end of the week will never be enough, not compared to what I made in a day before.

Battling the Urge for Fast Money

The allure of quick cash is a siren's call that's hard to ignore. It whispers promises of easy living and the return to a lifestyle where money is no object. Overcoming this urge is one of the biggest challenges in early recovery. It's about reprogramming your mind, understanding the true cost of that fast money - the loss of freedom, relationships, and self-respect.

So, how do we conquer this desire? It begins with finding new meaning in the work we do. It's about taking pride in earning money through legitimate means, no matter how small the amount may seem. It's about setting goals, creating a vision for a life that's not just about survival but about thriving in a new reality.

The Difference After the Hustle

Life after the hustle is a stark difference. There's a newfound peace that comes with living in the light, no longer looking over your shoulder. Relationships are built on trust and genuine connections, not on transactions. There's time to discover who you are outside of the identity that the streets gave you.

But it's not just about the internal changes. It's about the external ones too. It's about being able to plan for the future, to save for a vacation, or to invest in your education. It's about the satisfaction of seeing your hard work reflected in the growth of your savings account, not just in the wads of cash you used to carry.

Moving Forward

The journey from fast cash to hourly wage is more than a change in income; it's a transformation of identity and values. It's a process that requires patience, resilience, and support. For those of us in early recovery, we must embrace this new chapter, recognizing that the true measure of our worth is not in our wallets but in our ability to overcome and start anew.

Yes, the path is challenging, and the temptation to revert to old ways can be powerful. But the rewards of walking this road are immeasurable. We gain more than just a steady income—we gain a life that's rich in authenticity and purpose. 

As I reflect on my shift, counting the modest sum I earned today, I understand that this is more than just money. It's a symbol of my commitment to a new way of life, one where every dollar is a step away from my past and towards a future I can be proud of.-Belle-



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