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I'm Belinda. Plot twist: I'm both a recovering addict AND a substance use disorder clinician. If you'd told me years ago I'd be where I am today, I would've laughed so hard I might've fallen off my barstool. But here we are, and somehow life turned out way better than any high I chased back in the day. I started this blog because we need to cut through all the BS around addiction and recovery. There's enough shame and stigma out there, and I'm pretty much done with it. It's time to get uncomfortable and talk about the stuff nobody wants to talk about. The messy parts. The real parts. Home-wise, I'm living my best chaos in northern Wisconsin with my incredible partner (our family's human rock), two amazing boys (one rocking the autism spectrum), a weirdly lovable dog named Baby Dog, and a cat named Steve. While our neck of the woods is postcard-pretty, we're not immune to the addiction crisis. This blog? It's going to be honest. Sometimes painfully so. Sometimes funny (because if we can't laugh at the darkness, what's the point?). Always real. Welcome to my corner of the internet, where recovery meets reality, and we don't sugarcoat a damn thing.

Thursday, June 12, 2025

Addiction Science for Counselors: How to Make Neuroscience Actually Make Sense (and Maybe Even Funny)

 


Addiction Science for Counselors: How to Make Neuroscience Actually Make Sense (and Maybe Even Funny)

Ever tried to explain dopamine to someone who thinks “brain science” is just what happens when you drink too much caffeine or energy drinks? If you’ve ever watched a client’s eyes glaze over when you say “neurotransmitter,” or you’ve fumbled through a metaphor about habit loops that landed about as well as a burly Northwoods person at a yoga retreat, this post’s for you.

I’m not here to hand out a neuroscience lecture or to shame anyone for not knowing the difference between a synapse and a sandwich. I’m tired of seeing “brain talk” scare people off or make them feel broken. It doesn’t have to be that way.

Let’s make addiction science feel as real as wet boots in November. Let’s give people something they can actually use.


Why Brain Science Matters (But Only If You Can Use It)

We owe our clients the truth—about the struggle, about hope, about what’s actually going on under the hood. But let’s be honest: if “just say no” worked, we’d all be out of a job and probably fishing more. Our clients aren’t dumb. They just know an empty answer when they hear it, and sometimes “your prefrontal cortex is underactive” sounds a lot like it.

What actually helps? Giving folks a way to understand what’s happening—without making them feel like you’re reading a textbook at them. When people get the real story about how brains work (and how brains can change), something clicks. They stop seeing themselves as “defective” and start seeing themselves as fixable, improvable, human.


What Flops: The Classic Fails

Here’s what usually doesn’t work:

  • Techno-Babble: If you start talking prefrontal cortex, most folks are already thinking about the weekend or whether they need to change their oil.
  • Doom and Gloom: “This is your brain on drugs” might have sold some eggs, but it doesn’t sell hope.
  • One-Size-Fits-All Metaphors: Not everyone’s brain is a car. Some of us are driving snowmobiles, some are paddling canoes, and some are just trying to get the lawnmower to start.
  • Fear Tactics: If scaring people worked, every kid who saw a D.A.R.E. video would be straight sober.

Bottom line: if your metaphor makes people feel dumb or doomed, toss it in the woodpile and try something else.


What Actually Lands: Meeting People Where They Are

The secret sauce is individualizing. Meet people where they’re at, use their language, and don’t be afraid to toss in a little humor or self-awareness. If your metaphor fails, just shrug and try another.

Neuroscience isn’t about impressing anyone—it’s about giving folks tools they can actually use. If you’re real, if you’re willing to laugh at yourself, if you can admit when you bomb a metaphor, your clients will trust you—and they’ll listen.


Plug-and-Play Metaphors and Scripts

You don’t have to be a walking encyclopedia of analogies. Here are some you can steal, tweak, or just use as a jumping-off point. And remember: the best metaphors are the ones you build with your client, not for them.

Carpentry: Framing the Brain

"Building habits (and breaking them) is like framing a wall—16 on center, every stud matters. If you mess up, you can always pull a few nails and start over. The brain’s just as forgiving, most days. Recovery? It’s remodeling. Sometimes you gotta tear a wall out and start fresh. Ain’t pretty, but it works."

Visual: Draw a wall frame, point out the spaces (“gaps in habits”), and show how you can always pull out and replace a 2x4.


Mechanics: The Check Engine Light

"You ever ignore the check engine light? Me too. The brain’s like an engine—sometimes it runs rough, sometimes a sensor’s shot, sometimes you’re due for an oil change. Addiction? That’s like running with a misfire—everything else starts to break down. Recovery? It’s regular maintenance. Pop the hood, swap the busted parts, keep rolling."

Visual: Sketch a basic engine with warning lights, label “dopamine” as fuel, “prefrontal cortex” as the onboard computer, etc.


Hustle/Street: Running a Scam on Yourself

"Addiction is like running the same busted scam on yourself, day after day. You’re both the hustler and the mark. You know it’s nonsense, but part of you keeps buying in. Recovery? That’s when you finally call your own bluff, admit the hustle’s up, and start playing a new game."

Visual: Two figures playing cards—one looking sly, the other looking confused. Label both “you.”


Breaking Trail: New Habits Take Work

"Sometimes building new habits is like breaking trail in fresh snow. The first trip through is brutal, but keep walking it and soon it’s a path. The brain’s the same—old habits are ruts, new ones take effort. But if you keep showing up, you can blaze a new trail in your own head."

Visual: A simple trail through snow with a faint new path splitting off from the old one.


Build Your Own: Co-Creating Metaphors

Ask your client: “If your brain was a machine, animal, or part of a fishing boat, what would it be right now?” Let them pick. Run with whatever they give you. The more it feels like theirs, the more it’ll stick.


Visuals: Describe, Don’t Prescribe

You don’t need fancy diagrams. Sketch dopamine as a leaky bucket, habits as ruts in a dirt road, or cravings as pop-up ads that won’t close. Or ask your client to draw what they see. The point isn’t art—it’s making the science stick.


Encouragement and Community: Embrace the Flop

If your metaphor falls flat, laugh about it. Try another. Invite your client to help you find one that fits. The best scripts are the ones you write together, in real time, with all the mess and misfires that come with being a real human.

Nobody gets through this work (or this life) without screwing up a few times. The brain can change. So can we. And if you ever get lost, just remember: you can always start again.


Call to Action: Let’s Crowdsource the Good, the Bad, and the Ugly

Got a killer metaphor? Or a story about a time your metaphor bombed so hard your client just stared at you? Share it below. Let’s crowdsource the tools, the stories, and the laughs. This job’s too hard to go it alone.


Final Word: The Neuroscience Cheat Sheet

  • Your brain is weird, but it can learn new tricks.
  • So can you.
  • Building new paths takes time (and sometimes snowshoes).
  • If you mess up, pull a few nails and start again.
  • And if all else fails: just be honest. People appreciate the real thing.

Stay real. Stay hopeful. And don’t forget to check your own engine light, counselor.-Belle-

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