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I'm Belinda. Plot twist: I'm both a recovering addict AND a substance use disorder clinician. If you'd told me years ago I'd be where I am today, I would've laughed so hard I might've fallen off my barstool. But here we are, and somehow life turned out way better than any high I chased back in the day. I started this blog because we need to cut through all the BS around addiction and recovery. There's enough shame and stigma out there, and I'm pretty much done with it. It's time to get uncomfortable and talk about the stuff nobody wants to talk about. The messy parts. The real parts. Home-wise, I'm living my best chaos in northern Wisconsin with my incredible partner (our family's human rock), two amazing boys (one rocking the autism spectrum), a weirdly lovable dog named Baby Dog, and a cat named Steve. While our neck of the woods is postcard-pretty, we're not immune to the addiction crisis. This blog? It's going to be honest. Sometimes painfully so. Sometimes funny (because if we can't laugh at the darkness, what's the point?). Always real. Welcome to my corner of the internet, where recovery meets reality, and we don't sugarcoat a damn thing.

Thursday, February 6, 2025

Finding Your Tribe When AA Isn't Your Vibe: A Rebel's Guide to Recovery Support


Finding Your Tribe When AA Isn't Your Vibe: A Rebel's Guide to Recovery Support

Let's talk about support systems, shall we? And no, I don't mean your cousin's Facebook group where Karen posts daily affirmations and everyone pretends to care.

Here's the thing about recovery, personal change, or whatever you want to call your attempt at not being a mess anymore: The standard playbook doesn't work for everyone. Shocking, I know. While Dave from accounting might thrive in his daily Zoom support meetings, some of us would rather eat glass than stare at Brady Bunch squares of strangers talking about their feelings.

The Struggle Is Real (Especially When You're Really Rural)

If you live in Nowhere, Population: Cows, your options might seem limited. According to recent studies, rural residents face significant disparities in accessing mental health and recovery support. But here's where it gets interesting: Rural communities are getting creative, and some of their solutions are actually pretty brilliant.

Take, for example, the rise of "Recovery Ranches" - because apparently, horses are better therapists than humans. Who knew? These alternative approaches combine outdoor activities with recovery support, and turns out, mucking stalls while talking about your problems is surprisingly effective. Plus, horses don't judge you for your questionable life choices. They just want carrots.

Urban Warriors: Finding Your People in the Concrete Jungle

City dwellers, you've got your own unique challenges. Sure, there might be 47 different support groups within walking distance, but maybe you're looking for something... different. Here's where it gets interesting:

  1. Recovery Book Clubs: Because reading "The Great Gatsby" while sober reveals plot twists you definitely missed the first time around.

  2. Art therapy groups that don't require you to be good at art (thank god). Nothing says "processing trauma" like aggressive finger painting.

  3. Adventure therapy programs where you can channel your self-destructive tendencies into actually climbing mountains instead of creating them.

The Digital Dilemma (Or: Why Your Phone Might Not Be The Enemy)

Yes, we've all heard about the 500 recovery apps available. But here's something interesting: New innovative practices in behavioral health are showing that digital support can work - if you use it right. The key? Finding platforms that feel less like a digital AA meeting and more like a community of people who get your weird sense of humor about recovery.

The Lost Arts of Connection

Remember when people used to just... talk to each other? Some communities are bringing back old-school connection methods with a twist:

  • Community gardens (because nothing says "I'm working on myself" like failing to keep a tomato plant alive)
  • Skill-sharing workshops (learn to fix a car while fixing your life)
  • Recovery-friendly sports leagues (where "one day at a time" meets "keep your eye on the ball")

Finding Your Weird

Here's the truth: Recovery support is evolving beyond traditional methods, and thank goodness for that. Maybe your version of support is a heavy metal meditation group. Maybe it's joining a pottery class where you can literally throw things when you're angry. The point is, your recovery, your rules.

The Only Rule That Matters

The secret to finding support isn't following someone else's blueprint - it's creating your own. Whether that means starting a knitting circle for recovering anarchists or joining a hiking group that combines trail cleaning with peer support, the best support system is the one that doesn't make you want to run screaming in the opposite direction.

Because at the end of the day, the goal isn't just to recover - it's to build a life that doesn't make you want to return to old habits. And sometimes, that means thinking way outside the church basement.

Remember: If your support system doesn't occasionally make you laugh, you're probably doing it wrong. After all, we're trying to change our lives, not join a cult.

So go forth, you beautiful disaster. Find your people. They're out there, probably feeling just as awkward about traditional support systems as you are. And they might even have snacks.-Belle-

1 comment:

  1. I’ve found the ongoing need for multiple pathways and tools throughout my recovery because sometimes it’s the variety I need to get through what I’m going through. Let’s face it— personalities dominate many different groups and when we put our eggs all in one basket, we limit ourselves if that basket spills. There’s not an hour in the day that I don’t have an active tool I can use or person I can access for support to sustain my recovery. I’ve made many connections online in many different types of forums and interactive platforms. I also have many local support systems and resources. Diversity has been the answer for me vs. depending on one thing to keep me going.

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