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From Rock Bottom to Rising Confidence: The Journey of Self-Esteem in Recovery


 

From Rock Bottom to Rising Confidence: The Journey of Self-Esteem in Recovery

Self-esteem – everybody's favorite topic, right? Well, buckle up, folks, because we're about to dive into the messy, beautiful world of rebuilding pride and finding inner peace in recovery. And hey, we'll sprinkle in some dark humor along the way, because if you can't laugh at the absurdity of it all, you might just lose your mind.

So, why is self-esteem such a big deal? Think of it as the engine of your recovery. With a healthy dose of self-esteem, you've got the power to keep moving forward, even when the road gets rough. But during active addiction, that engine gets trashed. We're talking sputtering, smoking, on the side of the road – it's a miracle the thing still moves at all.

So, how do we get that engine roaring again? First, let's acknowledge that this isn't a quick fix. Rebuilding self-esteem takes time, patience, and a whole lot of kindness towards yourself. It's about recognizing that the person you were in active addiction isn't the real you. That was a person consumed by disease, making choices based on feeding that addiction. That's not someone to beat yourself up over – that's someone to have compassion for.

In residential treatment, one of the most common tools we used was good old-fashioned positive affirmations. I'm talking post-it notes plastered all over the mirrors, reminding clients of their strengths and worth. It sounds cheesy, but it works. When you're stuck in a cycle of negative self-talk, forcing yourself to focus on the positive, even if it feels fake at first, can be a game-changer.

Celebrate every win, no matter how small. That's the motto. Had a solid day of sobriety? That's something to be proud of. Managed to drag yourself to a meeting when all you wanted to do was hide? That takes serious guts. Acknowledge it, celebrate it, let that positivity sink in.

Recovery isn't about becoming a perfect person – it's about uncovering the person you've been waiting to be. That person is in there, buried under all the crap of addiction. But you've got to believe in them, even when it feels like a stretch.

So, quit sitting in the shadows, waiting for permission to exist. You're already worthy, just as you are. Get out there and celebrate you – your quirks, your strengths, your resilience. There's no one else like you, and that's something to be damn proud of.

Don't give up on yourself. Keep moving forward, even when it's hard. Keep reminding yourself of your worth, keep celebrating those tiny victories. With time, patience, and a whole lot of self-compassion, you'll find that engine of self-esteem roaring back to life. And when it does, man, watch out world.

Practical Self-Esteem Builders

  • Own Your Strengths: Make a list of the things you're good at. It doesn't matter if it's fixing a car or making a mean chili – those are strengths. Own them.
  • Take Action: Procrastination breeds self-doubt. Get moving on that thing you've been putting off. It's a win, no matter how small.
  • Healthy Competition: Not with others, with yourself. Set goals and crush them. That's confidence building.
  • Seek Out Positivity: Surround yourself with people who lift you up. Their energy is infectious.
  • Get Moving: Exercise releases endorphins, the body's natural mood-boosters. You don't have to become a gym rat, just get your body moving in a way that feels good.

Imposter Syndrome: When Confidence Hides Self-Doubt

Ever felt like a total fraud, just waiting for someone to call you out? That's imposter syndrome, and it's way more common than you think. Even the most confident seeming people can be riddled with self-doubt. The key is recognizing it and reminding yourself of your actual skills and accomplishments. You didn't get where you are by fluke – you've got this.

A Professional in Recovery

I'm not immune to those imposter feelings myself. As a professional in recovery, there are days I wait for the other shoe to drop, for someone to realize I'm just winging it. But the reality is, I know my stuff. I've put in the work and I'm making a difference in my clients' lives. Recovery is about growth, and that doesn't stop just because you've got a fancy title. Embrace the growth, embrace the change – that's where the real power is.-Belle-

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